Why Get Coached the Laura Way?

The 'D' word kept coming up - 'divorce'.

Still in the newlywed stage, it didn't make sense that he'd be ready to end it all so soon! Stranger still, I couldn't see what was happening that was so wrong. Our relationship didn't seem to be so different from our pre-marital days. To make things worse, he wouldn't talk to me about the problem, yet insisted that there was one.

The echoes of my dad would come into play: You can just talk about it. Just talk your problems out.

Well, what if the other person doesn't want to talk? What if they actually refuse to tell you what is wrong?

So, I began the journey into the weird. I started off somewhat normal. I researched the pysch journals, the marriage podcasts, tried the buzzwords like establishing "healthy boundaries" and learning all the languages of love. Finally, I dragged him into couple's counseling. None of the logical approaches were working - so I even tried seeing if the moon cycles could be acting into this and finally resorted to Feng Shui.

My house got so clean.

When he quit the couples counseling, I was desperate and up late sorting out how to handle a divorce. Laura Doyle popped up. Exasperated by the last year of failed attempts, I downloaded and cried as I saw my story being described in her book.

She said I could try. By myself.

I needed that hope so badly. That understanding that it wasn't about trying to pry it out of him or to drag him into discussion - the idea that I, alone, could shift the relationship. It all started with me. I could be the changing force - and he didn't need to do a thing. I didn't have to try and change him. There was so much relief in this idea, especially since it sure seemed like I was the only one wanting the marriage.

Flash forward: It worked! But, my story turned out crazily different.

Don't do what I did and try to DIY your marital fixes.

I wish I would've understood the skills, the concepts, and the methods for Laura Doyle's framework better. I would've hired a coach immediately had I realized that was the real key - the accountability and play-by-play rehash - but God and fate work in mysterious ways! I love knowing that this, right now, is where I'm meant to be.

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when your marriage can't wait

Ditch the DIY.

Better to do it the right way, the first try.